I am a woman!
am sitting here, wet hair, and have just had another day just for me –
at home. Beauty
is not only coming from inside, therefore
it is calming and satisfactory to set aside hours
to work on the outside! I am allowed, am I not? But
– I would not approve of the man in my life doing the same…! Men – in my world,
ought not be attracted to the idea either!
can enjoy time with my kids, cuddle them, being soft. Men – can
they, without risking getting a nickname? I like Dads who play with
their children! But I like them to do it Dad’s way, not Mum’s way.
can dress up, put on jewellery, makeup, color my hair and paint my nails,
without risking any adverse effects. I can nurture the weak, need help,
and ask for it. And it is being interpreted as it should. Those
of the opposite sex who regard the feminine side as negative, they are
not men of my preference anyway!
boy or man, with self respect, could admit to his friends that he spent hours
in the bathroom before going out? And what woman with appreciate
having to fight for space in front of the mirror every morning?
Many men/boys have
developed into male Barbiedolls, apply tanning cream, kajal and mascara,
shave themselves both on the upper and lower parts of the body, and have
entered the belief that women prefer smooth powdered bottoms!
Yes, we spend a lot of time with our kids – but when I want a Man,
the kids are out of my head and ancient instincts rule!
dream of being provided for and taken care of, without feeling it is
wrong, except for those women who feel we should look after ourselves.
Maybe I wouldn’t have had that dream if I wasn’t sure that I can
look after myself? But
after several years as a single parent, I know that this is not
something to be longing for! - And I can see that my kids have been
subject to the burden of not having Mum there when she was needed….
What man, with som
self-respect, could publish such dreams?
Strong men are men.
Secure men are men. Wild men are men. Cavemen with 2000-look are men! I
hope that the outrageous, makeup-wearing, dandylike, sensitive,
oversocial,… are rare exceptions.
The SNAG variety
from the 70’s, with only one masculine attribute, the beard, was after
all a shortlived variety. A variety which was created by 70’s women
who wanted a male friend and babysitter only. And we saw what happened.
Those men who took the bait, and could be formed and manipulated, were
thrown out when they were no longer needed. Because babysitters can be
employed, female best friends were there, and MEN after all, were
supposed to ignite emotions, desire - and emphasize the
feminine in ourselves.
now we are on our way to ruin the Males again!
we actually know what we want? Couldn’t we just let men be men – and
love them for it?
feel privileged. I can give birth to kids, I can use my entire register
of emotions without feeling ashamed, I can dress up, work or choose not
to. I can enjoy the man’s wish to protect and look after – in the
same way I wish to protect and look after my kids. I can enjoy be
physically weaker and phycologically stronger. I can be lifted by the
admiration of myself as a woman, because I allow the man to be a man!
is the women over the last decades who have made me take of some of the
choices I have made today. I understand that equal work should receive
equal pay, and that many men appreciate that the woman contribute to the
family economy. I understand that many women want a carreer outside the
home, and that this can justify their wishes – men with soft values
who enjoy changing nappies… but do these women understand that the
same men cannot be transformed into conquering them, once the kids have
been put to bed?
am not so sure if it is right that we should have children, if carreer
is our priority. Doesn’t the bad conscience tell us something?
need to be kids a little longer – they need the attention a Mum at
home can provide them. But the Government has not made it possible to
provide for a family with only one income. Taxes and cost of living has made it impossible. The
women have to work, the men must accept it, and kids are placed outside
home during 80 per cent of their life when they are awake.
is rarely a real choice to be at home
with the kids! So,
then comes the question:
this what we were fighting for?
that is the case, the women who have fought for us have somehow derailed
at one stage or another. Or maybe they were just tricked around by a
greedy Government who saw the possibility of further income to the
want back the real option of staying at home!
I want it, but haven’t got a chance against what they call “development”.
and Men are not alike
different needs, evolved from ancient instincts. That we actually work
to get rid of our inner selves are frightening.
cannot be men, and women cannot be women.
when I look around, it is the boys (Who are mostly boys) – and the men
who are men, who picks Women.
Women no longer want SNAGS, they do not want men with makeup as Dads for
their kids, or men who drown themselves in soft values.
some young girls want it, Women do not.
can a man who has changed nappies and fed the baby with porridge all day
be transformed into a superlover in the evening? So…. what is we think
we are developing ?
are in 2000, and we haven’t even understood that we
complement each other. We do not need
to be alike. We ought not. We should admire each others strengths
and complement each other’s weaknesses. Enjoy the opposite sex with
it’s particularities, and enjoy what
is natural to both! Then women resembling a waterfront docker and
SNAGS will still be the exception.
I am a woman. And that is what I want to be most…For real!